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    The guy who gave me the confidence and skills to pull almost anything apart, and put it back together again, passed away in the early am. Thanks for the skiing, the motorcycling, the stupid Dad jokes, and being a fantastic role model.
    The end was mercifully quick, for which I am immensely grateful.

    Pete
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    Very sorry to hear this Pete, but you are a great legacy for him to have. Our sympathies in your grief.
    Anne and Jeff.

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    Really sorry to hear it Pete. One thing about losing a good Dad though- they're always behind you, like a solid back stop, in everything you do. You'll know what I mean soon enough. And now the load is yours to carry. JayInOz

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    Sorry to hear it Pete. Condolences.

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    Sorry Pete but it sounds as if you have good memories and had a good relationship. That's Gold.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PeterSibley View Post
    Sorry Pete but it sounds as if you have good memories and had a good relationship. That's Gold.
    What Peter said.
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    Sorry to hear mate but a quick end is good. I miss my dad.
    The definition of stupid has got to be the belief that more guns will negate the bloodshed done with guns.

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    My sympathies, Pete.
    I'm dreading the day myself as My father is 91. I don't think we are ever ready for it.
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    Best wishes to you and your family.
    Memories of a life well lived will carry you into whatever the future holds.
    I still miss and remember with fondness my Dad and he passed in 1972.
    I once thought I was wrong, but I was wrong, I wasn't wrong.

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    So sorry for your loss.
    You have good memories to treasure.
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    You have my sympathies and best wishes Pete. Hold on to your memories.
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    Sorry to hear that, its something that happens in life, but its never easy. Having had a good relationship, you'll carry his words and values with you so he'll be with you in that way. But I do feel for you and your loss.

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    Very sorry to hear this, you and your family have my heartfelt sympathies and condolences. It is not easy to lose a loved one.

    My father had a heart attack and passed in 1992 before he or I could say goodbye.
    Enjoy a good rum on the rocks at sunset.

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    I am so sorry. It really ain't easy, even when the death happens as mercifully as it can.
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    Sorry to hear this, Pete. But I think he done good.

    What are you doing about it?




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    Great parents are truly a blessing. Prayers of comfort in this difficult time.
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    Pete,

    My sincere condolences!
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    Fair winds to him, Pete.
    There is no rational, logical, or physical description of how free will could exist. It therefore makes no sense to praise or condemn anyone on the grounds they are a free willed self that made one choice but could have chosen something else. There is no evidence that such a situation is possible in our Universe. Demonstrate otherwise and I will be thrilled.

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    Sorry to hear this. Your description (minus the motorcycles) fit my dad well too - though he had to work on me a few times on the putting it back together part . I know it's all part of the natural order of things, but it hurts.

    The pain does grow less, but I still (17 years later) occasionally say to myself "I'll ask dad about that" & then realize...
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    So sorry to hear this, Pete.

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    Pete, So very sorry for your loss.
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    My condolences and sympathies -- he lives on in your heart.

    Hope the voyage is a long one.
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    you come into harbors seen for the first time...

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    I'm very sorry to hear this, but I am glad you have so many great memories.

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    Of course we know they're going to go. But we're never ready. It's always too soon. It's lucky that he didn't linger, but he's still gone, and you have my sincere condolences.

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    A dim bystander at the body’s start
    And a last judgment on man’s futile works,
    Other is the riddle of its ambiguous face:
    Death is a stair, a door, a stumbling stride
    The soul must take to cross from birth to birth,
    A grey defeat pregnant with victory,

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    He was obviously a great father. Sorry for your loss.

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    Sorry to hear this Pete. Every time I use one of my Dad's old tools, I'm grateful for what he taught me.

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    It's always a loss, even in the fullness of time. It's obvious to us all that he had to have been first class.

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    He lives on through you.
    The best statement I've seen from this latest carnage came from a student who lived through it -

    "My generation will not allow this to continue!"

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    Sorry to read about your loss. I am happy you had him in your life and you can reflect positively on his influence. He will travel with you in spirit always.
    Be wary of your critics, at peace with your decisions, and work hard to be a better man.

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    Very sorry to hear this Pete.
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    My condolences.
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    REP. Condolences.

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    My condolences Pete. It's something that is difficult to come to terms with. My Dad went 11 years ago next month.

    Nick

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    Condolences,I guarantee you will always feel his presence and the memories will endure.

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    Condolences Pete.
    We don't know how lucky we are....

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