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    I'm sorry to hear of your loss Ian. A light extinguished but don't let yours dim because of it. We'll all miss you here on the WBF if you let that happen. Reach out as required, there are plenty of people who can and will help if you need it. Don't be afraid to ask.
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    Deepest condolences Ian. So very sorry for your loss. Peace and fair winds to Mary Ellen.

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    Ian, I guess I missed this because it was in 'people and places', and I don't visit there often. Please accept my condolences. The loss of someone close is always too terribly hard on all of us, as it must be, on you.
    "Reason and facts are sacrificed to opinion and myth. Demonstrable falsehoods are circulated and recycled as fact. Narrow minded opinion refuses to be subjected to thought and analysis. Too many now subject events to a prefabricated set of interpretations, usually provided by a biased media source. The myth is more comfortable than the often difficult search for truth."







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    My sincere condolences to you Ian and MaryEllen's family.

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    I posted earlier on this, must have forgotten to push the button to send it! I'm so sorry I missed this tragic news! I only met her a few times but, thought she was a real peach! Your OP, memorial was brilliant and perfectly written. She was lucky to have her in your life as you were to have yours. Keep the memories alive and take care Ian.

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    Alas!

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    A peaceful end, my thoughts are with you Ian.
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    My deepest sympathy to you Ian,and to her similarly bereaved friends and family.

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    Quote Originally Posted by doorstop View Post
    Ian,

    I lost my wonderful Cynthia last Monday morning at 0405.
    The most wonderful, kind and generous person I have ever met so I know how you are feeling.
    Cynthia was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in August 2015 and she too had major surgery.

    Ian, the pain is horrid I know and I do a lot of weeping but being surrounded by family and a wonderful community is a very good thing and I truly hope that you are getting plenty of support at this most distressing time.

    Best of luck friend .
    Sorry to hear that Chris, that's been a tough few years for you both.

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    May you find some peace in this difficult time, sorry for your loss . . . . . . .
    This is the first lesson ye should learn: There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, it doesn't behoove any of us to speak evil of the rest of us.
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    Can only add to what the others have said. Very sad to hear this.

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    My condolences Ian. May peace and strength be with you.
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    I am so very sorry to hear this news. What wonderful words. Take care of yourself, Ian.

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    I'm sorry to hear this news, Ian. Best wishes that the good memories remain.

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    Your loss weighs heavy on me, Ian. You have my condolences.... I held the hand of my stepfather as he began Stokes breathing. Held his hand for two hours, until I had to leave. Losing a loved one is nothing less than losing a part of yourself. With time the pain becomes bearable. I can only wish you peace.
    "The future is already here — it's just not very evenly distributed." William Gibson

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    Ian:
    A sad and long "goodbye" for you. So sorry to read of MaryEllen's passing.
    A friend wrote a book about the loss of his only son and it too was hard to read, but that family all shared the expression, "Onward we go".
    I hope that the pain eases and you find some peace.

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    Sorry to hear of your loss
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    My deepest condolences, may peace be with you, Ian.

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    What a wonderful way to go - holding the hand of someone you love who loves you.
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    So sorry Ian. My prayers are with you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by elf View Post
    What a wonderful way to go - holding the hand of someone you love who loves you.
    I had a similar thought. What a thing.
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    So sorry to read this, Ian. All our best wishes to you.

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    So sorry for your loss, Ian.
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    So very sorry ....touched by MaryEllen's passing. I did not know her, other than how you wrote about her. I knew she was special for you. A couple of months ago I asked about you progress on the 'Meg'. You simply said things were going slowly. Now I think I know why.
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    Take care Ian,

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    Ian, I am sorry for your loss. I hope, in time, that it becomes bearable.

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    I just saw this posting Ian. I'm so sorry. She was a wonderful woman.
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    I'm sorry to hear of MaryEllens passing, Ian. Your presence in her final days and hours must have been a great comfort to her. I hope that all our comments here might be of some small comfort for yourself.

    Jim

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    A quiet, firm handshake to you Ian and all other bereaved family and friends.

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    What a life you and MaryElllen must have had together. Peace be with you. Best wishes, Dan

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ian McColgin View Post
    doorstop, I'd not been reading all the posts on Phillip's thread and so missed your post.

    Being with a person as she or he is dying is both hard and beautifully meaningful. For me, hospice took the heavy lifting out of the whole process and I could concentrate on being "Blob of Comfort". And MaryEllen's family and friends were deeply involved.

    Age matters. MaryEllen was 63, which seems too young to me, but my closest friend's wife was diagnosed with leukemia when she was pregnant and she died when their child was under two. At that time (early '80s) in tandem with a Vietnam vets outfit we organized - the VFW, the VA, and town veterans' agents having a bit of attitude about survivors of that war - I helped establish a sort of "widows club" for women whose men did not come home. So I know that loss is a very different experience by age, experience, family situation.

    If the loss is foreseeable, as it was for you and for me, I think the opportunity for preparation and for participation with our beloved is one of life's more remarkable gifts. In loss you and are are actually blessed.
    Ian,

    Very true words my friend.

    Cynthia was only 64 and a very young in spirit 64 at that. To be able to share her life was wonderful. To be with her for the last period of her time was an incredible privilege as she never for a second complained or did the "poor me" thing. Cynthia was the most kind and loving woman and I feel that the best way to honour her amazing life is to strive to emulate her kindness and generosity of spirit.

    Peace Ian
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    So sorry to hear about this Ian. I have no words that are adequate, but I'll be thinking of you.
    Alex

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    I am so sorry to hear of your loss...
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    So very sorry for your loss of your beloved wife. My heart goes out to you and your family and all who loved her.

    Fair winds to MaryEllen, peace to you
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    Sorry to learn this. Heartfelt condolences.
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    Sorry to hear this Ian. I wish you strength to bear it.
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