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  • Ian McColgin
    Senior Member
    • Apr 1999
    • 51638

    MaryEllen

    This morning between midnight and 0400 MaryEllen died.

    MaryEllen was a quarter of a century at AP so I had to give this post a strong lede.

    Many here know MaryEllen and others at least know of her. I'm reticent about personal matters so those who don't know us personally would have no way of knowing that MaryEllen has dealt with melanoma for the past three years - three surguries and two different immunotherapies. In the fall we saw that none of that was working. We looked into radiation and chemo but neither was right. We went to Dana Farber but none of the clinical trials they were running were even a remote fit. So, while still feeling pretty good, we started with hospice. She was still fairly active at Christmas, full family and all, but over the last few weeks she grew weaker. As we upped Hospice nurse visits to daily, she and her sister planned her death - cremation and in the early spring a gathering. Over the last two weeks she could no longer swallow and we really concentrated on comfort.

    At midnight I went to sleep holding her hand. At 0400 I awoke and her hand was not alarmingly cold. But my hand (I have small hands) had considerably more mass than hers. I could see no respiration and after a bit felt her head, which was cold. I then checked her pulse, which was none.

    Besides the AP, MaryEllen's major involvement was the Barnstable Comedy Club. As an actor, she paid special attention to her entrances and her exits. In this case . . .

    She slipped her earthly mooring very peacefully and with wonderful presence.



    ["Not My Fault," MaryEllen Slavin]
  • rbgarr
    43.50.918 N, 69.38.583 W
    • Apr 1999
    • 25479

    #2
    Re: MaryEllen

    I'm so sorry Ian. I'd hoped to see you this weekend at the CC Boatshow, but didn't know she was so close to the end. If you got the envelope in the mail I hope it wasn't too late. RIP MaryEllen.
    For the most part experience is making the same mistakes over and over again, only with greater confidence.

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    • Hwyl
      Gareth
      • Jan 2003
      • 22222

      #3
      Re: MaryEllen

      I'm so sorry, I really liked her.

      Emily had forewarned me, but still it's devastating.
      Last edited by Hwyl; 02-02-2018, 05:59 PM.

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      • johnw
        Senior Member
        • Nov 2001
        • 28586

        #4
        Re: MaryEllen

        So sorry to hear this.
        On the trailing edge of technology.

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        • stromborg
          Senior Member
          • Sep 2010
          • 6315

          #5
          Re: MaryEllen

          Sad news Ian, take care.
          Steve

          If you would have a good boat, be a good guy when you build her - honest, careful, patient, strong.
          H.A. Calahan

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          • darroch
            Senior Member
            • Dec 2004
            • 1102

            #6
            Re: MaryEllen

            My sincerest condolences, Ian.
            May the heartache and pain soon be replaced by loving memories.

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            • Thad
              Senior Member
              • May 2000
              • 6362

              #7
              Re: MaryEllen

              Thank you, Ian. It was a real pleasure to have encountered her so many times. Hope to see you soon.

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              • Garret
                Hills of Vermont
                • Apr 2005
                • 48606

                #8
                Re: MaryEllen

                Damn. I am so sorry Ian. I didn't know her well at all, but certainly enjoyed talking with her the few times we met. All the best to you & please remember to celebrate her life - though I know you will.
                "If it ain't broke, you're not trying." - Red Green

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                • Rich Jones
                  What boat to build next?
                  • Apr 2009
                  • 19642

                  #9
                  Re: MaryEllen

                  I'm so sorry. I had no idea she was sick. You are one of the most revered and respected members of this Forum and, by extension, so was she. You made a wonderful team.
                  May she rest in God's arms and may God's comforting peace be with you.

                  -Rich
                  I was born on a wooden boat that I built myself.
                  Skiing is the next best thing to having wings.

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                  • Joe (SoCal)
                    Banned
                    • Feb 2002
                    • 46431

                    #10
                    Re: MaryEllen

                    leithscéal as do chuid trioblóidí - Sorry for your troubles.
                    All my love and compassion my friend. It was good to hear your voice.

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                    • isla
                      Isla Woodcraft
                      • Aug 2008
                      • 12229

                      #11
                      Re: MaryEllen

                      I'm so sorry Ian, I had no idea. My sincerest condolences.
                      Structures without reference to geometry tend toward the ramshackle

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                      • John of Phoenix
                        Senior Member
                        • Jun 2001
                        • 31214

                        #12
                        Re: MaryEllen

                        You've written of her many times in the dearest terms. My deepest sympathy.

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                        • Gerarddm
                          #RESIST
                          • Feb 2010
                          • 32450

                          #13
                          Re: MaryEllen

                          I am so very sorry to hear your news, Ian. Peace.
                          Gerard>
                          Albuquerque, NM

                          Next election, vote against EVERY Republican, for EVERY office, at EVERY level. Be patriotic, save the country.

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                          • Flying Orca
                            Ruth, feck, and gorm
                            • Jan 2007
                            • 21319

                            #14
                            Oh, Ian. I am so sorry to hear this. I will be thinking of you and her other people. I feel for you, especially after the year Oystagirl and I have had. I wish I knew what else to say.


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                            • Tom Montgomery
                              Lurking since 1997
                              • Sep 1999
                              • 35608

                              #15
                              Re: MaryEllen

                              Such sad news. I am so sorry, Ian. My deepest sympathy.
                              "They have a lot of stupid people that vote in their primaries. They really do. I'm not really supposed to say that but it's an obvious fact. But when stupid people vote, you know who they nominate? Other stupid people." -- James Carville on the plethora of low-quality GQP candidates in the mid-term election.

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