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Gresham CA
02-05-2007, 08:13 AM
My two oldest boys are getting married this spring and Karen was telling me that one of the brides-to-be is having difficulty in deciding how to address us. I for one still call my FIL Mr. McCLellan but call my MIL Jean. I dont care if my new DILs call me Dad/Charles or Mr. Gresham but do feel that the latter is just a bit too formal.

What do y'all call the MIL/FIL?

Joe (SoCal)
02-05-2007, 08:15 AM
ex ;)

Popeye
02-05-2007, 08:17 AM
i usually call 'em late for dinner

baboom tissh

TomF
02-05-2007, 08:18 AM
My inlaws and I do first names. Same's true of my wife and my mother.

John Bell
02-05-2007, 08:33 AM
First name basis.

Chris Coose
02-05-2007, 08:35 AM
Seeing I am closer to my parent- in- laws age than I am to the bride, I don't have any problem using their first names. Seems most natural.
My son's partner calls me asshole and insane which is perfect. It keeps us well seperated.
My daughter's husband calls me Chris.

If somebody wants to call me "Mister" in any social or professional setting I let them know I prefer they call me Chris.

Hey Joe, I use "former" instead of "X". Seems to fit best. Former might connote that all is well. X leaves some ambiguity as to the present position and to new catches, they'd like to think all is good with the past.

JimD
02-05-2007, 08:35 AM
First names.

rbgarr
02-05-2007, 08:36 AM
Ditto... but I like them.

JTA
02-05-2007, 08:38 AM
Lee and Joan. For the first year or so it was Mr. and Mrs. last name, but at their insistence I changed. The way I was raised, it is very hard for me to address someone older than I am by their first name.

Jack

Rick Starr
02-05-2007, 08:39 AM
ROTFLOL!

C223 I feel ya pain.

John Most
02-05-2007, 08:48 AM
Tell Karen we miss her and need her back.

Mrleft8
02-05-2007, 08:51 AM
"Judge" and "Joo-dith"....

Joe (SoCal)
02-05-2007, 09:01 AM
Tell Karen we miss her and need her back.

We :rolleyes: ???? Speak for yourself Dutch. :D

LisaS
02-05-2007, 09:15 AM
I address my former in-laws by their first names. I address my step mom by her first name, but introduce her to everyone as my mom, as she has been since I was about 13.

LisaS

Milo Christensen
02-05-2007, 09:20 AM
the dearly departed

geeman
02-05-2007, 09:21 AM
I call mine "deceased"

Wild Dingo
02-05-2007, 09:32 AM
Ric and Nan... first name basis only :cool:

Dont think it ever entered my head to call them anything else... possum used to call my mum very little in fact I dont think she called her anything :rolleyes: they had some serious issues :o

As to Tiffs fiance Ben its Shane or dad up to him so far Ive gotten both and no worries he doesnt mind and neither do I...

Melissa's boyfriend Paul calls me Shane...

Aarons new girlfriend calls me MR EYRE... gawd I love that!! :D:D:D

(Section deleted due to stupid comments by me)

Anyway back to Charles and Karen!! ;) tell them in yer southern accented drawl to "jest call her ma an me pa!! :D :D

Brian Palmer
02-05-2007, 09:47 AM
First names.

Tar Devil
02-05-2007, 10:01 AM
First name.

Say "hi" to Karen for me, Charles. Hope you folks are doing well!

Gonzalo
02-05-2007, 10:10 AM
I used first names for my in-laws, but my wife called my mother "Mom." I never could see calling someone "Mom" who isn't my mom.

The minister who married us suggested that we bring up the topic of what to call each other shortly after the wedding. I did with my in-laws, and it was never awkward after that.

David Tabor (sailordave)
02-05-2007, 10:21 AM
Hey Shane, Tell us how you REALLY feel about Yaz's BF... come on! :rolleyes:


I called my inlaws by their first names... Well, FIL went by his first two initials... same difference. Deceased now.. since 2001/2003

Was the beginning of the end for SWMBO and me.

High C
02-05-2007, 10:30 AM
First names, not that my kids are married yet, but that's what's common in my family.

Hi Charles! and congrats...

Wild Dingo
02-05-2007, 10:40 AM
Hey Shane, Tell us how you REALLY feel about Yaz's BF... come on! :rolleyes:.

Sorry Dave... it just sorta came out :o I'll scrub it now I think no need for that sorta thing... cheers

Ps.. Im now officially chastised :( ;)

Andrew Craig-Bennett
02-05-2007, 10:45 AM
I had a grandfather-in-law rather than a father in law, so "Mr" seemed most suitable!

brad9798
02-05-2007, 11:47 AM
I call them angels ... they have both passed! :(

High C
02-05-2007, 11:53 AM
...he's a Kentucky Colonel. :rolleyes: .

So's my father. They used to pass those things out like candy. :D

Nanoose
02-05-2007, 12:03 PM
What are you comfortable with?

I remember the day Dave started calling my Mom 'Mom'. He had to grow into it, but boy, it was a happy day for her. I call his folks by their first name - their request (I'm not comfortable calling them mom/dad).

B_B
02-05-2007, 12:12 PM
my inlaws were none too pleased when we announced our intentions to marry - to needle them I called them Mom and Dad....names stuck after 12 yrs seem to have gotten used to the idea! :)

David Tabor (sailordave)
02-05-2007, 02:09 PM
Sorry Dave... it just sorta came out :o I'll scrub it now I think no need for that sorta thing... cheers

Ps.. Im now officially chastised :( ;)


Dingo mate, you of all people need not feel chastised. I think MOST everyone here knows you don't have a mean, vindictive bone in your tortured, crapped out bod...

And if the shoe fits..... well, Yaz may have taken leave of her senses and the lad just may be as bloody awful as you HINTED at. Nothing wrong w/ calling it as you see it...


STREWTH, oh gobsmacked one, IF you ever post something you shoulda not oughtta, rest assured I will tell you so!

My comment was only to reinforce just how strongly you obviously felt about the poor bugger of an idiot.

Hey, just cheer you up.... IT'S 16 freaking degrees here today! That would be something on the order of -9 C.... See Kiwi land wouldn't be as bad as you think!

rbgarr
02-05-2007, 02:16 PM
That's what I understood... and why I laughed so hard when he seriously asked me to address him as "colonel". :)


"... and then there was the old gent who couldn't remember anyone's name, so he called all women 'my dear' and all men 'colonel'."

rbgarr
02-05-2007, 02:21 PM
My two oldest boys are getting married this spring ...

To each other?

I drove through Irmo once, and it looked like there'd been a good deal of inbreeding. ;)

High C
02-05-2007, 02:31 PM
To each other?

I drove through Irmo once, and it looked like there'd been a good deal of inbreeding. ;)

What a jerk. :rolleyes:

Joe (SoCal)
02-05-2007, 02:34 PM
Ooooh ol HiC getting all huffy over his poor forum buddy's Karen's kids.

It was a Joke grow some Rhino Skin will ya ;)

High C
02-05-2007, 02:36 PM
Ooooh ol HiC getting all huffy over his poor forum buddy's Karen's kids.

It was a Joke grow some Rhino Skin will ya ;)

Grow up, will ya? ;)

TomF
02-05-2007, 03:20 PM
How do I address my inlaws?

I've sometimes tried "return to sender." Hard to get stamps to stick.

paladin
02-05-2007, 03:29 PM
Dearly Departed....

George Roberts
02-05-2007, 08:07 PM
I always use Mr. and Mrs. After all I have their daughter.

oldsub86
02-06-2007, 08:29 PM
My mother has become Gram and my mother in law, Gramdma, not only to me but my wife and my sons. Both my father and father in law have passed away.

Randy