A Better Question

[Memphis Mike]

If you were a married white couple and childless with the chance to adopt a poor black homeless child in this country, would you adopt that child or adopt some child from China because their skin seems to better fit your liking?

[Meerkat]

Based on stats, the kid from China gets the nod.

[Paul Pless]

[ 02-18-2006, 06:39 PM: Message edited by: Paul Pless ]

[Katherine]

To some couples, a kid is a kid.

[Tar Devil]

Originally posted by Memphis Mike:
If you were a married white couple and childless with the chance to adopt a poor black homeless child in this country, would you adopt that child or adopt some child from China because their skin seems to better fit your liking?"Red and Yellow, Black and White,
They are precious in His sight."

Mine, too!

[Dolly Varden]

i'd rather have a dog.

i hate changing dirty diapers

Dutch

[botebum]

Hate to say it but Meer is right. The disadvantages for the entire family by the social issues involved with adopting a black child would hinder both the child and the family in most cases. The marriage has to be a strong one to endure it. The social issues invovled with adopting an oriental child are less in our society. Doesn't say much for our society does it?

Doug

[Tar Devil]

So, how does that get changed, Doug?

[Concordia..41]

It's not just about what would "better fit your liking." Hopefully no one considering adopting a child is that shallow, but you never know these days....

Imagine Sue in the park with a black child on her hip and a bunch of rednecks stroll by and think the obvious.

I found out just a few years ago that when my parents were living in New Mexico in the early 60's they had the chance to adopt a Mexican baby girl. They thought and prayed and cried and ultimately passed on the opportunity to love and raise the child because of the deep-seated prejudice in the South. Mother later said that if they felt they would have stayed in the Southwest that they wouldn't have hesitated, but Daddy had applied to the graduate program at Mississippi State College and they knew his strongest chance for finding employment was in Mississippi and Alabama.

And the sad reality is that having a little Mexican baby in the car in the 60's in the South would cost you entry into a collegiate program and / or a job.

My parents weren't weak folk and they weren't prejudiced or looking for only a child that matched their skin, they just understood what they were dealing with. The net result of which is that stupid southern prejudice cost me a sister.

[Dolly Varden]

and you can sell them to testing labs like paul"s if you wantto get rid of them

Dutch

[Sue H.]

With all due respect, Margo, my daughter is black. Well, mixed race, as my first husband was black. She is the light of my life, and I wouldn't change anything about her for the world.

I've never encountered a redneck I couldn't handle, though. I've put a few in their place in my day. ;) But, all that aside, I understand your point.

[botebum]

Wish I knew Phil. Wish I could change the world. My new daughter has to grow up in it. Yeah... I wish I could change the world...

Doug

[Dolly Varden]

fart

[Memphis Mike]

And I love her too. As if she were my own. We don't always get along but I love her.

[botesbabe]

My 5 year old has better manners than you, Dolly. Your juvenile comments belong in a preschool.

[Concordia..41]

Sue - I didn't mean to underestimate you. It sounds like you've stood your ground against the ignorant jackasses out there.

- M

[bukuboy]

Color is irrelevant; Adopt the kid with the highest IQ. Really a no brainer... ----Bukuboy

[Dolly Varden]

Originally posted by botesbabe:
My 5 year old has better manners than you, Dolly. Your juvenile comments belong in a preschool.youre the 2nd person this week who said they would ignore me then had their "wife" (supposedly) come online to browbeat me.

what a farce
smile.gif
Dutch

[Dolly Varden]

hey yeah, thats it, a Mrs Dutch ;)

Dutch

[jack grebe]

as a married white couple me and my wife had quite a few black and mixed race foster children in our home. there is no one that will tell me that you are not looked down on.however I would not then or now back away just because the child is black.we loved them while we had them, kept in touch for a while after they left, and cried when they left. I honestly believe that mixed race children are the most colorblind people I have ever met. perhaps they are the ones to break the cycle of discrimination in the country

[Memphis Mike]

Originally posted by jack grebe:
as a married white couple me and my wife had quite a few black and mixed race foster children in our home. there is no one that will tell me that you are not looked down on.however I would not then or now back away just because the child is black.we loved them while we had them, kept in touch for a while after they left, and cried when they left. I honestly believe that mixed race children are the most colorblind people I have ever met. perhaps they are the ones to break the cycle of discrimination in the countryThat just about brings tears to my eyes Jack. smile.gif

[bukuboy]

Ya gonna keep us up to date on how the Alzheimer's patient is doing Jack? ---Bukuboy

[Tar Devil]

My first wife and I ran a shelter home for young children in the late '70s. The very young would call us Mommy and Daddy, and we had black, white and almost every shade in between. Yeah, we got some strange looks from folks, but when a child goes from looking at an adult with terror in their eyes to looking up with love, nothing would've kept us from this opportunity.

Jack is right on the money... kids are colorblind. And of all the kids we had... regardless of age... we had absolutely zero problems with the black kids.

Later,

Phil

[Memphis Mike]

What Sue says about rednecks is true too. She's been known to throw a few rocks at em and that ain't no lie. A few rocks at me too. :D :eek:

But this has been a touching thread. smile.gif

[ 02-18-2006, 09:33 PM: Message edited by: Memphis Mike ]

[Sue H.]

I would like to post a disclaimer here - I've never thrown rocks at anyone! Well, except for some guy at a bus stop in San Francisco that attempted to expose himself to me when I was in my 20's. I actually chased him AND threw rocks at him! :D

[Dolly Varden]

Originally posted by Memphis Mike:
What Sue says about rednecks is true too. She's been known to throw a few rocks at em and that ain't no lie. A few rocks at me too. :D :eek:

But this has been a touching thread. smile.gif yeah. its been so touching that hillbilly skipped on over to the thanks memphis mike thread ( by joe) and made an abusive attack on del lansing, skipped back here to shed a few tears, then back over to the other thread for a quick erasure

brings tears to my eyes

fart

Dutch

[jack grebe]

bukuboy, if I thought you were really interested in June, I would update you...but hey I'll give you the benifit of the doubt.call me 610-413-2200

[Billy Bones]

nevermind--it was good just to write about it.

[ 02-22-2006, 10:16 AM: Message edited by: Billy Bones ]

[Garrett Lowell]

Originally posted by Memphis Mike:
If you were a married white couple and childless with the chance to adopt a poor black homeless child in this country, would you adopt that child or adopt some child from China because their skin seems to better fit your liking?I think the people who go the China route do so because it's alot easier to adopt that way than to deal with the adoption process here. At least that's what my colleague told me when he and his wife tried to adopt in the US. They've adopted twice now, both times from China, both girls. FWIW