View Full Version : Life Ain't Fair (sad)

Scott Rosen
10-31-2002, 11:49 AM
It seems that there's always too much grief to go around.

Last night the three year old daughter of a dear childhood and family friend died in an accident in the home.

I would ask those of you who believe in a god who hears prayers (and those agnostics who are willing to take Pascal's Wager) to offer your prayers for the soul of that child and for the healing of her parents. Especially for the healing of the parents, because they're going to need it.

10-31-2002, 12:00 PM
We're with you. In a perfect world children would be immune to every ill. I know we all agree to that, the whole world over.
Prayer mode is "on".

Wayne Jeffers
10-31-2002, 12:02 PM
Not only is life not fair, sometimes it doesn't even make sense.

Prayers for all concerned.


10-31-2002, 12:02 PM


- M

Matt J.
10-31-2002, 12:04 PM
Done, Scott. Sorry to hear this. There is too much of this lately, to be sure.

-Matt & Jenny

Billy Bones
10-31-2002, 12:07 PM
Absolutely done. From all of us.

10-31-2002, 12:09 PM
There is nothing more heart wrenching than the death of a child. My prayers go out to all involved.


Bruce Taylor
10-31-2002, 12:13 PM
"Loss, O beloved, loss, loss. Look what has been taken from us."

I'm not good at praying, but I'll try.

10-31-2002, 12:28 PM
Done. No, I don't understand it, but if Job believed there was a Purpose I must try to do so.

10-31-2002, 12:36 PM
Ironically, I just got back into the office from decorating our second daughter's grave (my six-year-old wanted to decorate Emilia's grave for Halloween!!)

Life is baffling. I am so sorry to hear about your friend's child. I just don't understand the so-called 'mysterious ways' sometimes ...

My heart and prayers are with them!!!



Ed Harrow
10-31-2002, 12:36 PM
A long and lonely road to be sure...

I don't know if I'm up to Pascal's Wager, but I'll do my best. Thinking of you and your friends.

Ken Hall
10-31-2002, 12:42 PM
Praying. :(

Roger Stouff
10-31-2002, 12:55 PM

stan v
10-31-2002, 01:26 PM
I'll join hands.

On Vacation
10-31-2002, 01:30 PM
Sorry to hear the news. Hard to figure WHY???? We will remember you and friends tonight at our moment of silence at our carnival at church..

Jim H
10-31-2002, 01:32 PM
Done & done. Scott, if you can spare the time, be near them a much as possible. I have seen this same thing break-up families, there is nothing worse than outliving your children.

Alan D. Hyde
10-31-2002, 01:54 PM
Your friends will be in our thoughts and prayers, Scott.


jack grebe
10-31-2002, 04:02 PM
consider it done
a sad day for sure...but the sun will rise

John of Phoenix
10-31-2002, 04:16 PM
For Scott's and Brad's.

Greg H
10-31-2002, 04:21 PM

John Bell
10-31-2002, 04:22 PM

I can't hear about the death of a child without tearing up... Here I am, about to go home to take mine out trick-or-treating, and... <sigh>


Mr. Know It All
10-31-2002, 05:57 PM
Sad news indeed Scott :( . Prayers sent.
Kevin in Ohio

True Love
10-31-2002, 06:06 PM
prayer sent.

Chris Coose
10-31-2002, 07:34 PM
To consider the grief of these parents, makes my mind want run away faster than from any other thought I could ever imagine.
Prayers and loving kindness goes to all who suffer today.

10-31-2002, 07:43 PM
Sorry to hear that Scott. I'll say a few tonight.


10-31-2002, 08:01 PM
O Lord, help us to bear that which cannot be borne.

10-31-2002, 08:15 PM
I think the only pain worse than losing a beloved spouse would have to be that of losing a child. My heart goes out to them during this horrible time in their lives. Please pass on my condolences.


10-31-2002, 09:11 PM

garland reese
10-31-2002, 09:23 PM
We will keep them in our prayers Scott.

10-31-2002, 10:00 PM
Our sympathies are with your friends Scott.


Frank Wentzel
11-01-2002, 12:22 AM
I find it hard to believe there is an intelligence behind the universe but such as there may be; please help them.

John - I understand your emotion. I am also in tears.

/// Frank ///

11-01-2002, 12:45 AM

Ron Williamson
11-01-2002, 06:06 AM
I'm so sorry.
Your friends will need much support to help them heal. :(

Dave R
11-01-2002, 06:42 AM

Scott Rosen
11-24-2003, 05:29 PM
Life is amazing. My friends just had a new daughter, seen here being held by yours truly.


I vote for Quinlan Ann as the world’s most beautiful female.

11-24-2003, 05:37 PM
Sorry to hear it Scott. I'll remember you all at my special time of prayer tonight.

Jamie Hascall
11-24-2003, 05:49 PM
This reminds me of friends who lost a young boy to Leukodystrophy, Poor little guy had just enough brain function to keep alive for a year and a half. Nine months and a few days later Eli was born. Truly an amazing kid. I think he got the intelleigence and energy that was allotted for both children. It was hell on my friends and there are still lingering effects but they have been so blessed with this one that we can only give thanks. It is a strange life we inhabit.

My best to Quinlan Ann and her folks.


11-24-2003, 06:11 PM

Joe (SoCal)
11-24-2003, 06:14 PM
I missed out on the prayers but may I join in the celebration. What wonderful news Scott, truly a beautiful rebirth. The loss of a young child can be the ultimate test of a family its wonderful to see the triumph of the family. Please wish them luck and congratulations - this is the best news I have heard all year, thank you for sharing.

km gresham
11-24-2003, 07:06 PM
So very sad! When I think how many times our children come so close to disaster it amazes me that more aren't lost to accidents.

I'll say prayers for the family and the friends who are heartbroken at this child's passing. Someone once said that when someone dies it's because God needed another angel. I don't know, but I like to think that those I've lost are among God's angels - and that I'll meet them again.

11-24-2003, 07:07 PM
Scott -

She's beautiful! Please pass on my congratulations.


Domesticated_Mr. Know It All
11-24-2003, 07:42 PM
God closes a door and opens 2 windows. smile.gif
Thanks for the lift Scott.

Wayne Jeffers
11-24-2003, 07:53 PM
Life renews itself. smile.gif

Joy and blessings to all concerned!


11-24-2003, 08:06 PM
I failed to look at the date on the thread. Congrats to the new parents. smile.gif

Ian Wright
11-24-2003, 08:43 PM
Life eh?


Wild Dingo
11-24-2003, 09:22 PM
got that on too eh Ian! :D

Life... one life moves on to another plane while another moves along to this one... a star shines brightly ever more for the wee one who went aloft too soon :( and now a new star shines with them :D

Aint life a real mystery and what a journey!! :cool:

Hugs for the parents.

11-24-2003, 10:48 PM
Surely we were never meant to bury our children...

11-24-2003, 10:56 PM
One question- why does the soul of a child of 3 need our prayers? My God readily admits the innocent.....

11-25-2003, 01:29 AM
Scott -- wonderful!

Ian McColgin
11-25-2003, 08:00 AM
It iw wonderful to see not just renewal, but the courage and faith your friends have to risk again.

Alan D. Hyde
11-25-2003, 10:24 AM
Throwing our eyes back to glance across the centuries, it's easy to cast aspersions on those who preceded us.

But, remember, their's was a different world: a world in which most fathers and mothers buried children who died young, and in which many husbands buried wives who died young.

Whenever we experience events such as Scott describes, we are likely to think them exceptional, as indeed they are now, for many of us. But they are an integral part of the old human condition, of the path of history that has led us to our present vantage point.

God has helped your friends, Scott: the old and lost will be recollected with pangs of anguish, and the memories cherished, but the new and growing and giving will fill an increasingly larger part of their lives from day-to-day.

Thank God for that, then; it is a reason for Thanksgiving. A reason to smile.


[ 11-25-2003, 10:25 AM: Message edited by: Alan D. Hyde ]

11-25-2003, 02:12 PM
I complained about mysterious ways ... last year on this thread ... actually, as Emilia's would-be third birthday is this Sunday, I have bitched about mysterious ways a lot over the last couple of years ...

Yet, the damned mysterious ways work positively, too.

What a beautiful new baby.

As hard as it is to admit, since Garrison was born nearly two years ago, I would change the tragedy that preceeded him ... or, I wouldn't have him!

Mysterious ways ... most of the time: MY ASS!

Some of the times, powerful and positive!

Good on them.

Who is that freak holding that baby, though? ;)

Bruce Taylor
11-25-2003, 02:57 PM
Oh, good. Good.

11-25-2003, 04:12 PM
Life comes from death, death comes from life. Knowing this truth does not help in the moment of anguish. All sentient beings are moved by this.

My condolences.

Ed Harrow
11-25-2003, 08:46 PM
Bitter sweet to be sure. As Alan said, a sorrow once common is now experienced by precious few. Scott, please pass along my best wishes, along with a few hopes and dreams.

Phil Young
11-25-2003, 09:32 PM
I love a happy ending! Hadn't seen this thread before, it really takes you through the emotions!

11-25-2003, 10:46 PM

Billy Bones
11-26-2003, 03:48 PM
What great news!

Thank you Scott for following up with us!

Alan, very nicely said.

Harry Miller
11-26-2003, 03:52 PM
Listening, as I am, to my almost 3 year old grandson playing with his trucks downstairs, I don't know how I could cope with him dying. Count me with Pascal.