Time Marches On

[Concordia..41]

It was two years ago today that Dave and I closed on this house, and two years ago tonight we spent our first night in our new home. Dave knew what the future held for him, but it was so very important to him to make sure that my future was safeguarded before he left.

Two years. So short and so long all at once.

There’s so much around here that still holds his touch. He built the massive 11’ oak computer desk where I sit. Right down to the keyboard tray where my wrist rests. His copy of Chapelle’s Yacht Design and Planning is still in the workstation to my right. And there are so many things that are new. New paint and wallpaper. The new 2005-2008 sailing rules next to his Chappelle’s. Same old printers and scanner. New monitors and phone system. New refrigerator. Old stove. The list is endless. New juxtaposed amongst the old.

The dog, Marley, that he never met, is at my feet taking great pleasure in destroying a toy Sugar enjoyed 15+ years ago. I don’t know what’s odder, the fact that I saved a dog toy for 15 years or the fact that I’m not bothered that Marley is chewing a once-treasured item to bits.

People Dave never met come over to the house, but old friends come and go too. We celebrated a friend's 50th birthday here Saturday night. Of the 30+ folks in the house and yard, he probably knew 5.

So many things have happened in the last two years. So many things he should have gotten to see. A few things that I’m glad he was spared.

Several weeks ago, I saw him in a dream. He was standing on the front porch looking at me through the screen door. He looked happy, rested, well. He didn’t try to open the door and come in, he just smiled and waved a gentle wave – like ‘hey, I’m here if you need me.’

At the blazingly fast rate things change, what can the next two years hold?

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[Donn]

More of the same, kiddo. Joy and sorrow.

[Paul Girouard]

One day at a time girl , one day at a time. smile.gif Paul

[Joe ( Cold Spring on Hudson )]

Well I for one am glad I have met you. Margo. I would have loved to have met Dave. I do feel as though I got to meet a bit of him through your love for him and this forum.

Happy Holidays my friend and email me your address, we are making our Christmas Cards tonight.

[Peter Malcolm Jardine]

Several weeks ago, I saw him in a dream. Those aren't dreams Margo. ;)
When our loved ones who have left this earth for another place drop back in to say hello, it's every bit as real as this life is. ..that's my belief anyway. You and Dave had a very strong connection.. even tho I have never met either of you, it shines like a bright light even on this electronic jabberwocky we call the internet. Those connections don't need wires or radio waves... They're a bond that mortality on this earth cannot break. smile.gif

[Memphis Mike]

Nicely written Margo. You're a gem. smile.gif

[John B]

Thanks Margo.
Here's to the good times.

[capt jake]

Margo, not sure what to say other than I think of you often and wonder how you are doing. Time does fly by, at least it has been for me too.

I have had my sister visit me (many years ago) in a similar 'vision'. It was also peaceful.

They say time heals all wounds.

Happy Holidays. smile.gif

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[Tar Devil]

On one hand I envy you, Margo. I've been wanting to visit my mom in just such a dream since she died. I've only relived the hellish night she died.

You are one of the remarkable pillars of this forum. May God richly bless you in the coming years.

My best,

Phil

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[paladin]

it's been nearly two years since irina left and I have the same dreams and feelings. Family try to make things better, but only time will tell....and Merry Christmas, Margo.

[TomF]

... and family members have "visited" my wife and her sister too. As PMJ said, these aren't dreams.

Blessings, and thanks.

t.

[ssor]

I know several friends that have been asked,
" How do you get through the sea of emotions in all of this?" And they all have the same response, "I didn't know that I had a choice."
I am glad that you have a circle of friends that will lend themselves to some of your needs.
This can be a tough time of year. Many people think warmly of you often.

Ross in Bel Air.

[LisaS]

Margo -

I raise a toast to you in understanding...

Lisa

[imported_Daniel]

Cheers Margo, all the best.

[uncas]

Ans someone said that men don't cry...
A lot of people would like to be remembered that way....
Margo...great memories...hold on to them...as I know you will....
Uncas

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[cs]

Margo, I know not what to say, only one foot in front of the other is how it is done.

You and Dave had something special.

Chad

[Phillip Allen]

A toast to the passage of time...if it did not pass, we would not have been here (I raise my coffee cup a bit higher and recite, "Light-foot lads and rose-lipped maids...")

[Mrleft8]

I know the feeling, sort of, Margo. It's only been 6 months since my Mother died, but I find myself, nearly every day, wishing I could share a funny, or outrage, or ask a question about cooking, or sewing, or who so and so was...

[John of Phoenix]

Very nicely said, Margo.

I've said elsewhere that there is more to this life than the level we normally operate.

Nice to have Dave visit for a bit too. smile.gif

[Alan D. Hyde]

Your continuing devotion to Dave, and your wisdom in dealing with your loss, both shine brightly thru your posts, Margo.

Few who have suffered such a wrenching change have the depth and strength of character to embrace their futures as they supplement rather than supplant what went before.

All the best to you; it is an honor to converse occasionally with you here.

Alan

[Matt J.]

I'm not sure thanks seems appropriate Margo... but thanks for posting.

Here's to time healing all wounds.

[Ken Hutchins]

Margo, I'm so glad that we have gotten to know you. Your strength to make these posts at difficult times is amazing. Best wishes for the future.

[Meerkat]

Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.

Peace

[nedL]

Margo, May you treasure every memory and still look forward to tomorrow. I hope each day is still getting easier.

[Stiletto]

Nice post, Best wishes.

[uncas]

Margo...based on what I have read here...Dave was an amazing guy...Oh...wish I had met him..
Hope you have a great holiday regardless...and Sarah is movin''' right along...Want to tie up alongside ( what a sight that would be... :D ) her at the wooden boat show in Newport....2007....
David would be proud and happy...
jamj

[htom]

It's important, while marching on, to notice the flowers by the side of the street. Best wishes, Margo & company.