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MarkH
11-29-2010, 04:46 PM
I need another neglected wooden boat as much as I need a hole in the head and a divorce... but did it anyway

just bought a 106 year old fifie yawl. bonny wee thing (well she will be)

never rebuilt/restored a clink boat before, so that'll be an interesting learning curve. Larch on oak. Suffered more from being out of the water for years than from rot, although there's bound to be surprises.

Thing is, how do you break the news to your nearest and dearest!

http://ebgb.net/misc/yawl-small.jpg

switters
11-29-2010, 05:10 PM
nice find. The boat I mean. If the wife forgives you she is an even nicer find.:d

Not much advice from here, living in bachelorland again.

Rich Jones
11-29-2010, 05:38 PM
Looks like a big project. Good luck with it. Question: Will your wife's car be banished from the garage by this project? That could be big trouble. My wife gave up trying to use our garage years ago. I've dragged home two old wrecks over the years, not to mention the new builds I've done. She just sighs and is happy that she knows where I am during my spare time; not out in some sleazy bar, but safe in the basement or garage happily banging away on a wooden boat.

htom
11-29-2010, 05:39 PM
Tell her that she won't have to worry about your finding a mistress, since you've already gotten one? She's going to be beautiful.

Peter Malcolm Jardine
11-29-2010, 05:45 PM
Lovely boat.

You're in deep ****.:D

MarkH
11-29-2010, 06:00 PM
deep doo doo indeed!

but, according to my twisted logic, it can't be as bad as the grief I got when I bought Pansy and didn't tell her (50' and 30tons!) this one is 18' or so and just around a ton, so I'm hoping the pain will be proportionally less!

I'm not going to be able to get it here for a month or 2 anyway, which gives me a bit of time to earn enough brownies points and/or break the news gradually

but for the £200 its costing me, I found it a hard thing to refuse!

StevenBauer
11-29-2010, 06:03 PM
Thing is, how do you break the news to your nearest and dearest!



Here's how you do it. Subscribe to WoodenBoat and ClassicBoat magazines for about 10 or 12 years. Sigh a lot while you read them cover to cover right in front of her. Re-read them too. Show her lots of pictures. Sigh some more. Then carefully wait a few more years. Then make your move. She won't bat an eyelash.
Worked for me.

:)

Steven

Peter Malcolm Jardine
11-29-2010, 06:04 PM
I feel your pain Mark, I suffer from the same affliction. I guess I have used the line "The trailer is worth $$$ !!!" to many times.... Now when I see a boat that interests me, Nancy rolls her eyes and says "Does it come with a trailer? Well, then..." :D

Peerie Maa
11-29-2010, 06:05 PM
Just tell her that Pansy needs a tender. You can both use it to get to those nice beaches for pick-nicks etc. that Pansy is too deep drafted to get to.

Peter Malcolm Jardine
11-29-2010, 06:06 PM
Here's how you do it. Subscribe to WoodenBoat and ClassicBoat magazines for about 10 or 12 years. Sigh a lot while you read them cover to cover right in front of her. Re-read them too. Show her lots of pictures. Sigh some more. Then carefully wait a few more years. Then make your move. She won't bat an eyelash.
Worked for me. :)

Steven


With four dinghies and three boats in the yard, a shop full of parts and a 36 foot cruiser at the Marina.... it doan work so well anymore:D

David G
11-29-2010, 06:07 PM
Before you tell her... see if you can negotiate a deal. You can have as many mistresses as you want - as long as they have wooden ribs. In return, you promise never to stray with a human female. Voila!

Peacefuljourney
11-29-2010, 06:26 PM
Some people get drunk everynight, some spend all their money on drugs or casino... So your addiction is not too bad... Putting that way it may work ;)

MarkH
11-29-2010, 06:30 PM
had thought about "hey, the good news is, the bilges are so accessible I can clean them myself on this one" but suspect that might not be a good start

Peter Malcolm Jardine
11-29-2010, 06:33 PM
Ahhh... Lets face it... she probably shares some of your mania. You just wanted to post some pichers of your new boat!!! :D

Breakaway
11-29-2010, 06:36 PM
There's nothing you can say. Take what comes and she'll probably get over it.

Nice looking boat.

Kevin

Nanoose
11-29-2010, 07:31 PM
You admit you're a total idiot...and that you have an addiction. A genetic flaw, actually....and that she should feel sorry for your affliction.
Run.

pefjr
11-29-2010, 07:44 PM
I need another neglected wooden boat as much as I need a hole in the head and a divorce... but did it anyway

just bought a 106 year old fifie yawl. bonny wee thing (well she will be)

never rebuilt/restored a clink boat before, so that'll be an interesting learning curve. Larch on oak. Suffered more from being out of the water for years than from rot, although there's bound to be surprises.

Thing is, how do you break the news to your nearest and dearest!

http://ebgb.net/misc/yawl-small.jpgJust tell her you bought her a project to challenge a few of her bountiful talents. Then promote yourself to Director of said project.

xsboats
11-29-2010, 07:53 PM
I've always had success in these matters by conducting a preemptive with a gift of something my wife has wanted for awhile. Then she usually goes along with yet another boat. That is how I have become known as xsboats. [excess boats]

JPhoenix
11-29-2010, 08:14 PM
My wife would not mind a bit - as long as I've brought home the Marsh Cat she's been bugging me to build/buy/restore for the past 5 years!

Chip-skiff
11-29-2010, 08:25 PM
Nice lines and despite the sorry state of the paint, the wood doesn't look too unsound.

Poor wee thing— Tell her you found it crying on the doorstep.

Fitz
11-29-2010, 08:48 PM
You are sunk.

I have a dozen plus canoes in the yard, "garage", and basement. They are a constant bone of contention. But they are very special canoes and they paddle beautifully.

Oh, well. So far, they keep me on the right side of the topsoil. So there is good in everything - at least that is what I tell her. :d

It helps if your wife also has a similar addiction - er "hobby". My wife's hobby is yelling at me, so the addiction angle doesn't really take hold. :rolleyes:

When you have a certain number of boats, she may not really notice an addition to the collection. Yeah, I know this is dishonest, but I am sure there is plenty I don't know about as well. Don't Ask, Don't Tell don'tcha know.:arg

dskira
11-29-2010, 08:52 PM
I need another neglected wooden boat as much as I need a hole in the head and a divorce... but did it anyway

just bought a 106 year old fifie yawl. bonny wee thing (well she will be)

never rebuilt/restored a clink boat before, so that'll be an interesting learning curve. Larch on oak. Suffered more from being out of the water for years than from rot, although there's bound to be surprises.

Thing is, how do you break the news to your nearest and dearest!

http://ebgb.net/misc/yawl-small.jpg

She allready knows just at looking at you :D
Wifes are clever, they know better.

By the way, very nice boat. i hope you can do a nice job, and enjoye it.

Daniel

ILikeRust
11-29-2010, 09:22 PM
That's funny - I was just asking myself this question yesterday. Not that I actually did buy another boat, mind you, but I saw a cute little boat that I can't get out of my mind. It's a plastic classic, I suppose. Not sure what it is - I'll have to take a closer look, but it looks to me like probably mid 1960s. It's about maybe 18 feet long, with a little cuddy cabin. She's floating in a slip in the marina where I keep my 1968 Pearson Wanderer. I've noticed her a couple times before - she's got really sweet lines and could be a real beauty if fixed up. Unfortunately, as she currently sits, she's in pretty sad shape. I asked the marina owner about her, and he says she's actually not abandoned - the owner is current with his slip fees. Which amazes me, because the paint is all peeling, the wood is all weathered and there's growth on the hull. I just don't understand the people who buy a neat old boat and then pay a marina to let it float in a slip and slowly rot away.

For a few minutes there, I was seriously thinking of trying to contact the owner to see what he would take for her. She would make a sweet little camp cruiser, although with a whole lot of elbow grease. But I keep imagining how lovely she could be.

I need another boat like I need uh... another boat. As if my old Pearson doesn't have enough projects waiting for me as it is...

Is this some kind of acquired mental illness?

peter radclyffe
11-29-2010, 11:10 PM
is there a forum for women who are sick of boats

orbb
11-30-2010, 06:15 AM
I would keep mum about it for now. Then, on Christmas eve, slip a picture of it into your stocking, along with a note from Santa Claus that he is giving the boat to you to restore and keep care of. His elves will deliver it in a month or so.

No one can refuse a mandate from Santa Claus.

lagspiller
11-30-2010, 07:02 AM
I waited until she bought an expensive jacket. Even though the prices were hugely different, women apparently have a much greater ability to feel guilt for their egotrips, so the 'crimes' cancelled each other out. ;)

Excalibur
11-30-2010, 08:22 AM
>> Thing is, how do you break the news to your nearest and dearest!

Well, I'd use a telephone...

An alternate suggestion. Find a Big Expensive boat and rave on about how great it would be to aquire and restore it. Once you have her convinced that you are about to jump into the deep end of the pool, reveal the poor wee thing that you bought "as a substitute". Won't work, but at least you can say you tried.

Or if you get desparate...
Tell her we made you do it with a double dog dare.

ILikeRust
11-30-2010, 08:45 AM
Lucky is the man whose wife enjoys the boat as much as he.

I am not so lucky.

Chris-on-the-Boat
11-30-2010, 09:37 AM
This news is best delivered by telephone, from your secret hideout stocked with at least two weeks worth of supplies, in case you have to lay low til this whole thing blows over...

Or, when she starts complaining, say something romantic like "I can't hear you complaining over the sound of you sanding her hull..." - then duck. This second method works better if you already have a boat nearby big enough to stay on for a couple of weeks...

chuckt
11-30-2010, 10:55 AM
Paint her name on the side in such a way that it looks like it has been there forever. Then take a picture and tell her when you saw her name on the boat you had to have it. If she discovers the ruse when you bring the boat home she probably will just laugh at you.

Peter Malcolm Jardine
11-30-2010, 11:02 AM
There are no new ideas on this thread. All of this has been tried.:D



My wife's hobby is yelling at me, so the addiction angle doesn't really take hold.

That isn't a hobby, it's a sacred female calling.;)

peterchech
11-30-2010, 02:59 PM
Let's face it guys, not that wives are known for being rational, but having 4 different boats (or more) is probably unnecessary for most of us, I have to agree the wives sometimes, occasionally, might possibly, I think, could have a wee bit of a point... possibly...

not that it has stopped me :-)

MarkH
11-30-2010, 03:28 PM
actually... the perfect opportunity might have just landed in me lap.

we were supposed to be selling this place and moving. had a good offer this week too, but she's now thinking she's not wanting to move and to be honest I'm not bothered either way (although she thinks I'm desperate to be away elsewhere!), so will supportingly suggest turning down this rare thing (a cash buyer!) and staying put, then move on to the fact that there's now no work left to do on the house so maybe I should find a wee project to stick next to the house

can't see how it can go go wrong!

Rich Jones
11-30-2010, 04:10 PM
Let's face it guys, not that wives are known for being rational, but having 4 different boats (or more) is probably unnecessary for most of us, I have to agree the wives sometimes, occasionally, might possibly, I think, could have a wee bit of a point... possibly...

not that it has stopped me :-)

BLASPHEMY!!!http://forum.woodenboat.com/images/icons/icon7.png

bob winter
11-30-2010, 04:34 PM
The wife takes a dim view of a great many things such as boats, Stanley planes, the cottage, unfinished projects, her unrenovated kitchen, unhung pictures, etc. etc.

I am a man who tries to avoid confrontation. As a result, I simply don't tell her about anything that I am fairly confident I can sneak past her. She will never notice a few more wood planes, hand held power tools, or pretty well anything else in the basement. I have managed things that I know I can't sneak past her as the situation called for at the time. Mentioning that the item was free is always a good approach.

Telling her that whatever it is is for her benefit more than mine also seems to work. The addition project at the cottage is a bug proof area for her to sit in for instance. The boat restoration is so I can can row her on the lake in a nice looking boat.

I always have the kitchen trump card if things come down to the wire and she has the typical female fascination for bright, shiny trinkets. Good bargaining points.

dskira
11-30-2010, 04:43 PM
Lucky is the man whose wife enjoys the boat as much as he.

I am not so lucky.

I am. When I said to my wife: I am going to built a boat, she says: Go for it, and she helped me. We are not young anymore I am 66 she is 68, but we enjoy every minutes.
Why every body is giving advises like if the wife is like a monster that you have to lie too or be carefull off? It's ridiculous.
Just be honnest, straight forward, and if she don't like it, it is her right, as it is your right to like it.
Marriage is not slavery, nobody belongs to somebody. You don't stop to be who you are because you have a wife.
As for the money, just be fair. No more no less.
Daniel

dskira
11-30-2010, 04:49 PM
This picture is a masterpiece. I am amaze of the elegance and perfect proportion of this, I will say, painting.
Congratulation



http://ebgb.net/misc/yawl-small.jpg[/IMG]

MarkH
11-30-2010, 04:49 PM
unfortunately 'wor lass' (to use the local vernacular!) is a real treasure who's head is rarely if ever turned by trinkets or expensive 'stuff', so that avenue has never really been open to me. small stuff I breeze in and out all the time, and thank my lucky stars she hasn't set foot in the shed for months and months and months or there would certainly be questions asked!

thing I learnt about the shed is to actively encourage spiders, and any cobwebs near the doors should be treated reverentially and maintained if at all possible. usually puts her off going near the place!

MarkH
11-30-2010, 04:56 PM
This picture is a masterpiece. I am amaze of the elegance and perfect proportion of this, I will say, painting.
Congratulation



for something that was built by eye, over 100 years ago, she does have rather pretty lines, I can't wait to get cracking on her

http://ebgb.net/misc/stem-view.jpg

switters
11-30-2010, 05:32 PM
I note that it is now shown loaded on a trailer, can we assume it is headed for the shop?

MarkH
11-30-2010, 05:46 PM
sadly, not just yet. it was on someone else's trailer to move it a short distance to someone where a bit more secure till I can beg/borrow/buy/build a trailer of my own to fetch her

Bill R
11-30-2010, 05:56 PM
Some people get drunk everynight, some spend all their money on drugs or casino... So your addiction is not too bad... Putting that way it may work ;)

Nope. Tried it. Doesn't work.

cs
11-30-2010, 06:36 PM
Some people get drunk everynight, some spend all their money on drugs or casino... So your addiction is not too bad... Putting that way it may work ;)


I use that same logic with my wife and it don't work with her either. BTW I told my wife about your problem and she said "As long as the boat comes with a gift for the wife."

Chad

Ian McColgin
11-30-2010, 06:42 PM
My former brother-in-law used to get his wife, who collected these things, a little donkey - porcelain, glass, stuffed, wood or whatever - every time he cheated on her. She told me once that Gary thought she didn't know. By the way, I'm the one got divorced - those two are still together after forty five years and two free-standing display cabinets of donkeys.

So, get the gift and maybe she'll pretend she didn't notice.

CharlieCobra
11-30-2010, 07:42 PM
I'm kinda in the same boat. I have Oh Joy in the shop sans deck, house and interior, Seasmoke due in the yard Monday and the yard just asked me if I want a Blanchard Sr. they just foreclosed on.......

What to do?

ILikeRust
12-01-2010, 08:38 AM
Some people get drunk everynight, some spend all their money on drugs or casino... So your addiction is not too bad... Putting that way it may work ;)

Not a chance. I've shown her pictures of other guy's workshops with way more old tools piled up and lining the walls than I have (and I have a fair bit), and said, "see? Look at this guy's shop - I'm not as bad as he is. Look how much stuff he has!" Her answer always is: "I don't care about him; I'm not married to him." Gotta admit she's pretty much got a point there.

I've also tried the "hey, some guys go out drinking and whoring every night, or out for poker night with the boys. I'm home every night and I'm not blowing money on horses, booze or other women." And her response is like the Chris Rock bit: "Of course your'e not - what do you want, credit for something you're SUPPOSED to do? If you did, I wouldn't have married you, and if you started doing that, we wouldn't be married anymore and I'd have half your stuff."

Again, seems she's got a valid point there too.

As it is, I make it sound worse than it is - she's actually been pretty accepting and tolerant of my addictions and mental illnesses (old and antique tools and machinery, and now boats). She's learned over the years that I might be slightly irresponsible sometimes, but I'm not wildly, irrationally irresponsible.

peterchech
12-01-2010, 02:02 PM
"thing I learnt about the shed is to actively encourage spiders, and any cobwebs near the doors should be treated reverentially and maintained if at all possible. usually puts her off going near the place!"

Niiiiiiice :-)

One more brilliant idea, watch a chick flick with your girl that involves boating of some sort... she made me watch some movie lately that had the male lead "romantically" rowing the female lead on a lake in a beautiful lapstrake whitehall-type boat in the early 1900's. She actually said "I want you to build that boat"... without my even suggesting it at all!

Breakaway
12-01-2010, 02:52 PM
http://mail.aol.com/32976-111/aol-1/en-us/mail/get-attachment.aspx?uid=1.27438130&folder=NewMail&partId=4

The Bridge
A man on his Harley was riding along a California beach when suddenly the sky clouded above his head and, in a booming voice, God said, 'because you have tried to be faithful to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish.'

The biker pulled over and said, 'Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can ride over anytime I want.'

God replied, 'Your request is materialistic; think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking; the supports required reaching the bottom of the Pacific and the concrete and steel it would take! I can do it, but it is hard for me to justify your desire for worldly things. Take a little more time and think of something that could possibly help man kind.'

The biker thought about it for a long time. Finally, he said, 'God, I
wish that I , and all men, could understand women; I want to know how she feels inside, what she's thinking when she gives me the silent treatment, why she cries, what she means when she says nothing's wrong, why she snaps and complains when I try to help, and how I can make a woman truly happy.
God replied: 'You want two lanes or four on that bridge?"

Phil Y
12-01-2010, 03:16 PM
Just tell her. With enthusiasm. Like a puppy who just found a really tasty shoe. How can that go wrong? (You might not get sex for a few months, but its so good when it comes back on stream its almost worth it.)

gibetheridge
12-01-2010, 05:27 PM
Hope I don't get in trouble with Scott for this. Tell her while you're having sex. It's called rodeo sex.

http://ponderosapine.files.wordpress.com/2010/01/rodeobronc.jpg?w=450&h=358

floatingkiwi
12-01-2010, 06:49 PM
Remember when you met and explained to her that you will do what you want , when you want, period, and in return you expect her to do the same??

No? .........oh.

gstanfield
12-01-2010, 09:15 PM
Start off by saying "Honey, I'm having an affair" then after she explodes tell her "actually I'm not, but I did buy another boat"

By comparison she'll be thrilled that you're loyal and not mind the "minor" inconvenience of having another boat around to drain money into. :)

George

WX
12-01-2010, 10:08 PM
Ask Bigfella, he's made it an artform.:D:D

Allison
12-02-2010, 02:19 AM
Start off by saying "Honey, I'm having an affair" then after she explodes tell her "actually I'm not, but I did buy another boat"

NO, NO, NO!!!!
A sure path to death and it won't be a speedy or clean one!:d

But who am I to talk, I don't have this problem, No wife!:D

McManusBoatWorks
12-02-2010, 01:09 PM
I asked my friend how he convinced his wife to allow him to have so many hunting firearms. He replied that the key was to have more than she could count. That way when another one showed up in the gun cabinent she couldnt tell that anything had changed.

Therefore the real question is not how to break the news to her but to know how many boats you have to have in the yard and in the shed so that she can not tell when you bring home a new one?

ILikeRust
12-02-2010, 02:06 PM
I asked my friend how he convinced his wife to allow him to have so many hunting firearms. He replied that the key was to have more than she could count. That way when another one showed up in the gun cabinent she couldnt tell that anything had changed.

Therefore the real question is not how to break the news to her but to know how many boats you have to have in the yard and in the shed so that she can not tell when you bring home a new one?

I learned many years ago, from another forum, the rule: "Never let your wife see all your tractors at one time."

Years ago I made the mistake, while re-arranging and "organizing" my shop, of lining up most (not all) of my metallic bench planes on my workbench. My wife happened to stick her head into the shop just then. She started to say something, then suddenly interrupted herself as her eyes got wide, and exclaimed, "Oh my GOD! How many planes do you HAVE??"

I sorta shrugged nonchalantly towards the ones on the bench and said, "oh, those? I have many more than those."

Yeah, that went over real well.

Sailor
12-02-2010, 05:20 PM
Tell her with roses. Or diamonds I guess as Boyle said.

floatingkiwi
12-02-2010, 05:38 PM
I learned many years ago, from another forum, the rule: "Never let your wife see all your tractors at one time."

Years ago I made the mistake, while re-arranging and "organizing" my shop, of lining up most (not all) of my metallic bench planes on my workbench. My wife happened to stick her head into the shop just then. She started to say something, then suddenly interrupted herself as her eyes got wide, and exclaimed, "Oh my GOD! How many planes do you HAVE??"

I sorta shrugged nonchalantly towards the ones on the bench and said, "oh, those? I have many more than those."

Yeah, that went over real well.

You should have said, aah, as many , or perhaps not quite as many, shoes as you have. Now get ya sticky beak outa my workshop unless it is to say something positive or encouraging!

gstanfield
12-02-2010, 08:13 PM
I have an extensive gun collection worth almost as much as our house and properties. My wife once asked just how many guns I had to which I replied "I'm still one short" :) She just shrugged and walked away!

Dick Wynne
12-02-2010, 08:49 PM
This is a problem Constance's purchaser has, I am forbidden from emailing his (shared) email account for this very reason.

Pourquoi Rene
12-03-2010, 08:42 PM
Seven years ago, I told my wife that if she gave me five years with the boat, that I would then have it all out of my system and that the boat would be sold and I'd have the time and use the money to then redo the house the way she always wanted it.

I figure that if she ever catches on I already have a great boat to live on: by myself.

Meli
12-03-2010, 10:37 PM
Tell her you found it growing in the bilge of the big one :D

S B
12-03-2010, 10:55 PM
Have your buddy deliver it,when you're not home. Have him explain how he needs you to look after it for him, you know all about boats and you are such a great guy. He never comes to pick it up, you claim it for storage cost. Sin to see such a classic go to waste.;)Might as well restore it.

Meli
12-04-2010, 01:08 AM
Start off by saying "Honey, I'm having an affair" then after she explodes tell her "actually I'm not, but I did buy another boat"

By comparison she'll be thrilled that you're loyal and not mind the "minor" inconvenience of having another boat around to drain money into. :)

George

Asking for trouble when she says' "I'm so glad you told me, So am I! :eek"

Peerie Maa
12-04-2010, 08:54 AM
Mark,
Never mind about the Missus,
Be sure to tell us when you have got it home. We want lots of photo's of her (the Fifey not the Wife, unless she is included for scale) both inside and out.

THampton
12-04-2010, 12:35 PM
My brilliant father in law pointed out that if your wife loves the boat your problems are over. And she surely will love her.

switters
12-04-2010, 12:42 PM
Arrrgg, has it been delivered yet, I want to see some pics of the inside please.

SB, sounds like the voice of experience.

paul oman
12-04-2010, 01:50 PM
oh, a boat! I though you meant you bought another wife.

McManusBoatWorks
12-05-2010, 08:57 AM
Have your buddy deliver it,when you're not home. Have him explain how he needs you to look after it for him, you know all about boats and you are such a great guy. He never comes to pick it up, you claim it for storage cost. Sin to see such a classic go to waste.;)Might as well restore it.

Wow. Now that is a brilliant approach. BRILLIANCE!!!!

McMike
12-05-2010, 09:32 AM
My wife said put a diamond ring on it and you should be good.;)

RFNK
12-05-2010, 10:43 AM
Forget anything logical! When I was given the Twister (as a floating wreck) we battled for months over whether to accept it or not. When she finally succumbed to my pathetic whining and pleading, she accompanied me in our runabout to tow it across to the boatyard to haul it out. She stepped on board and found an old tea cosy on an old aluminium teapot .... and fell in love. She collects tea cosies but this one needed to be soaked in all kinds of evil substances to get rid of its `I've been sitting out here rotting for a decade' stink. That didn't matter, it became a highlight of the collection and the boat, presumably by association, is now spoken of in only poetic tones along with reminders that I should hurry up and get it back in the water. That's going to take a while as all that's now left is a sort of Twister skeleton and a rusty iron ballast keel. She loves sailing but I can't help thinking she just wants to get that restored tea cosy back where it belongs!
Hope this rant helps!
Rick

seedy
12-05-2010, 11:07 AM
While you're restoring it, build me a copy. Gawrsh she's lovely. How are the wife's lines holding up?

S B
12-05-2010, 10:52 PM
Wow. Now that is a brilliant approach. BRILLIANCE!!!!

No, that is common sense, women know exactly what you are doing. Wife can "allow" something to happen behind her back and still be in charge. win/win

Allison
12-06-2010, 03:26 AM
Judging by some of the offers of advice either most of you guys are single or soon will be!:D:D

peterchech
12-06-2010, 11:26 AM
haha not directly on topic but relevant, from the instantboats forum recently regarding glue choice:

Post: "Seriously, when I build a boat, I literally build it like my life (or much more importantly, my wife's life) depends on it."

Response: "You opened another box of worms Allen. If a lot of us were building boats for our wives, they would resemble anchors. http://instantboats.com/phpBB3/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif

In your defense, I always used titebond when repairing kitchen chairs when the pegs would come loose.

but since we are shifting this column to boats for our wives, I have to give Mr Payson a call and see if he has any plans for an Elegant Punt with about 1200 pounds of lead ballast."

Hugh Paterson
12-07-2010, 11:59 AM
Let me know how u get on with that Mark, im helping a fella in Glasgow sort out a bigger version of your fifie, will get some picks of it if u want to swap notes chum. Were looking at building a new cradle to support it while we whack out some of the dodgy planking later this week (weather allowing)!!
regards
Shug

MarkH
12-07-2010, 02:05 PM
hi shug..

bigger version? which one/what she called tell me more!

definitely up for some note swapping and grumbling!

(just and added thought... did you mean bigger than the above one, or bigger than the other one - Pansy??)

tprice
12-07-2010, 04:23 PM
This advice may already have been given but as I tell my son, "it's easier to get forgiveness than permission" Go ahead and do it.

MarkH
12-07-2010, 04:29 PM
now there's a sentiment I like a lot.

floatingkiwi
12-07-2010, 05:24 PM
You should do whatever you want, when you want. Your wife should do the same. When you decide to join the other in something they are into because it too interests you, then that is what a relationship is all about I reckon.Sharing stuff. You know, spit and all that.
I have never nor would I, no matter how much I thought of them, take orders from a woman, nor would I set about trying to run her life. When women try to boss you around it is because they are not happy with themselves. So when you do everything they tell you, you finally become just an extension of what they already loathe and before you know it, See ya. But....BUT..... I did everything she asked of me, what more......too bad Jack, later.
They do what they do because you allow it.

My mate told me marriage was one big compromise. I had to remind him that the word compromise did not mean, you do what I say and I'll do what I say.

RFNK
12-07-2010, 08:49 PM
You should do whatever you want, when you want. Your wife should do the same. When you decide to join the other in something they are into because it too interests you, then that is what a relationship is all about I reckon.Sharing stuff. You know, spit and all that.

Exactly!
Rick